Thursday, January 16, 2014

Capturing Memories of Elderly Loved Ones


Clara (Mary Anne's mom) and Mary Anne Benedetto

I read the magazine article with enthusiastic interest. The writer disclosed a poignant account of traveling to another state to spend time chatting with her aging mother and capturing her life stories for posterity. I giddily cheered from the sidelines as she discussed their time of trading special memories.

Her mom offered never previously revealed heartwarming insight about the kindness of her own mother and what life was like as she was growing up. The writer was thrilled that she had taken the time to visit and make copious notes about these stories, and she hopes to eventually return to gather more information and perhaps publish her mother’s stories in book form.

Wait a minute. Make notes? Had she tried to write down everything that her mother had said? What did she miss? What became lost in translation? Could her mom’s stories have been stifled by her attempts to scribble down pertinent quotes? One story leads directly into another, so what may have been sacrificed?

There is a logical answer. Tape recorders. No, not the old fashioned kind that take up table space and have large reels to delicately feed through the device. Recorders of today’s generation are compact and efficient. Examples of two types that I personally use are:

1-A mini-cassette recorder with small tapes. I prefer using this model to loan to elderly individuals who are going to record their stories at their own leisure. Simply designed and easy to operate, most anyone can work with these devices. The sound quality is generally excellent, which makes transcribing the recordings seamless. This is also a very inexpensive option.

Mini-cassette recorder

2-A digital recorder. Although it is a more expensive alternative, I especially like to use this type when I am conducting telephone interviews. I purchased an attachment from Radio Shack that is used in conjunction with the telephone and, once again, it provides a clear,  good quality sound. This equipment is very small, lightweight and easy to carry in my handbag. One of its great features is a built-in USB port to save the recording to your computer if desired.

Digital recorder
One negative aspect is an issue that I discovered the hard way. After spending 45 minutes recording my mother’s stories by telephone, I detected an annoying humming sound upon playing the recording. I found that I obtain the best quality sound without interference when I have recorded from a handset that is not located near all of my office’s wireless activity. I don’t understand the technical aspects of this issue, but I am just reporting my personal experience.

Another caveat in using the small digital recorders is that while it wasn’t difficult for me to learn how to operate this little gem, I believe that it could boggle the minds of many elderly. Also, judging from my own mom’s dexterity difficulties caused by her arthritic fingers, anyone with this condition would be challenged by operating the tiny device. So this is not the best choice for providing to an elderly relative and asking them to record stories as they feel so moved.

It is often suggested to me that we simply video the loved one telling his or her stories. In theory, this is a great idea. In practice, it becomes more complicated. Many elderly folks freeze when they know they are being videoed, and this method may actually inhibit their story sharing.

When I wrote the book, 7 Easy Steps to Memoir Writing: Build a Priceless Legacy One Story at a Time!, one of the most important resources I included was a list of almost 150 questions that anyone can use for generating memories of loved ones or for formulating their own stories. It definitely simplifies the process during a memoir preservation project! Available in paperback and e-book on Kindle and Nook, this guide is a compact and powerful toolkit for capturing life stories. Visit http://www.awriterspresence.com for links to all formats.
 
Bravo to the writer of the aforementioned magazine article for her fervent attempts at preserving her mom’s stories! I wish that I knew how to contact her to direct her to this blog post. I’d love to be able to enhance her memoir gathering experience and make it immeasurably easier and efficient.


Have you captured the stories of your grandparents and/or parents? Those unique tales vanish if not preserved. It is well worth investing the time to be sure that family history continues to be shared with future generations.



Blessings to all. See you soon!
Mary Anne Benedetto
Helping People Write the Times of Their Lives


Author of Eyelash, 7 Easy Steps to Memoir Writing: Build a Priceless Legacy One Story at a Time!, Never Say Perfect, From Italy with Love & Limoncello and Write Your Pet's Life Story in 7 Easy Steps!

 


Friday, December 13, 2013

Introducing On Higher Ground






Author Paula Hrbacek is pleased to announce the release of her new Christian romance novel, On Higher Ground, a sweet romance about finding the courage to change.

The story features three humans and two angels.  The angels have been assigned to help the humans find God’s will for their lives.  They offer inspiration, good luck, divine intervention, and at times, appear in human form.

“One review of the book didn’t like the angels,” comments the author.  “She said that everything I had to say about a ‘still small voice’ should have been attributed to the Holy Spirit, instead.  She’s right.  It could have been the Holy Spirit, but I had to use angels in order to create a dialogue.  Characters speak when they don’t understand or don’t know something.  The Holy Spirit doesn’t need to explain anything to the rest of the Trinity, because they already agree with each other.  So, instead, I made one angel an apprentice, and one a supervisor, so that they would have something to talk about.”

At the end of each chapter, the angels discuss why God has answered one prayer with a no, and another with a yes.  The angels take a look at why bad things happen to nice people.  It also discusses why good things happen to not so nice people and why bad things happen to bad people.

The main character is a young adult woman, Melanie Worlds, who has run out of luck; no job, no friends, no future.  Desperately wanting to replace the middle class life she once knew up on “the Hill,” her faith is being tested to the limits.  JT, her newest friend, is up to something, but Melanie isn’t sure what it is.  And then Brad, her high school crush, comes back to town.  She can’t let him know how bad it is, or he’ll lose all respect for her.  And, to make matters worse, someone is trying to break into her apartment. 

None of her prayers are getting answered, and she feels all alone.  But she’s not.  Two guardian angels have been assigned to help these three humans.  The angels know God’s plan, and it’s going to take everything they’ve got to pull it off.  To battle temptation, the angels will need to instill courage; courage to dare, courage to dream and most of all, courage to love one another.

Personal thoughts from Mary Anne Benedetto:
 
Mary Anne Benedetto
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book of Christian fiction. I felt that the use of interaction between the two angels who are assigned to the young people in the story was incredibly clever and effective. I was reminded by the multiple times in my life when I have no doubt that I was being spoken to either by the Holy Spirit or angels or by God Himself, but that “voice” tells you something. It warns you or causes you to pause and make a better decision or washes you with peace.

I love to read books that take me to a place about which I am completely unfamiliar, and On Higher Ground succeeded in teaching me what it is like to financially live one day at a time and have to stretch every single penny. The story provides a clear picture of the challenges faced by countless numbers of people every day, and if we’ve never been in their shoes, we have no idea.

This book also reminded me that we are to offer our time and talents for His glory, that we need to listen to that small voice that plants thoughts in our minds about ways in which we can help others--not for our benefit or recognition, but as a part of His plan for our lives. One small kindness that may not seem all that significant to us could be a life saver to someone else.

People are definitely brought into our paths for a reason. I know this through personal experience. When we are sincerely willing to turn to God for direction, He opens gigantic doors, He orchestrates “chance” meetings, and He paves those steep, winding trails.

For a book that is a bright spark in your reading life, add On Higher Ground to your list and devour it for a sweet blessing.

  Mary Anne Benedetto

Paula Hrbacek is the author of On Higher Ground, Stars Shine After Dark and four non-fiction craft books.  She won first place in an international writing contest sponsored by Echoes of The Right to God in 2011.  She majored in journalism at the University of Missouri-Columbia, and writes two newspaper columns for The Examiner, an online newspaper. 
Paula Hrbacek

On Higher Ground is available in paperback, Kindle and Nook from Amazon and B&N.


Wishing you all a blessed Christmas and wonderful New Year!


Lovingly presented to you by,
Mary Anne Benedetto
Author and Certified Lifewriting Instructor

Author of Eyelash, 7 Easy Steps to Memoir Writing: Build a Priceless Legacy One Story at a Time!, Never Say Perfect and From Italy with Love & Limoncello, Write Your Pet's Life Story in 7 Easy Steps!