A
question frequently asked by memoir writing students is: Do I tell the truth,
the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
There
are various theories on this topic, all of which are interesting material for
another blog post. Some experts advise caution, while others believe that if
you do not remove the mask and reveal every asset as well as flaw, why tell the
story?
Where Have I
Been All My Life?
is a candid memoir by Cheryl Rice that sets sail on a voyage through the
churning seas that have perpetuated tremendous emotional distress in the
author’s life.
The
book begins with her childhood apprehension at being whisked away to summer
camp and describes the intense separation anxiety from her mother that
accompanied what should have been an adventurous and exhilarating experience.
She
also reveals herself clinging to her mother’s pant leg as they entered her
kindergarten classroom and her inability to let go, relax and play with the
other children. The absence of her mother in the classroom, as well as at
summer camp, left her feeling incredibly sorrowful and unsociable.
Fast
forward many years to witness a Cheryl Rice whose mother is dying at the young
age of sixty-seven. Cheryl walks us through the journey of attempting to cope
with her mother’s illness and death and being the daughter who tries to be
certain that her grieving father is managing his life without the vibrant woman
who was his life and love.
Anyone
who has ever lost a parent with whom they shared a loving relationship can
relate to the devastation that Rice was enduring. The heart feels as though a
vital chunk of it is missing and empty. I have been there, experiencing a
sadness that I had never imagined when my own father passed away. Fortunately,
I soon discovered that time is truly a healer, and the despair was eventually
replaced by the ability to recall bits and pieces of the humorous moments, the
very essence of what made Dad a unique character.
The
author’s vivid description of losing her mother produced a tight knot that felt
like an enormous boulder in my belly. My own mother is eighty-seven and
absolutely the most beautiful person--inside and out. The very idea of a daily
life without our morning and evening telephone conversations, shopping, Sunday
church and brunch, as well as our holidays together, is almost inconceivable to
me.
Cheryl
Rice helps us realize that while friends and family certainly sympathize with
our losses, they cannot possibly know the depth of our individual levels of
pain. The anguish may cause us to withdraw or perhaps act and think
irrationally. After all, who can ever be the same with that solid chunk of
heart excised?
The
author shares her reality--the good, the bad and even the outrageous. She gives
us hope that grief is a temporary condition and that cell by cell, the heart
miraculously mends.
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| Cheryl Rice |
Biography
Cheryl Rice is a professional
speaker and coach. Her company, Your Voice Your Vision, partners with women
striving to be leaders in their own lives. When Cheryl decided to take the
advice she so passionately offers her clients, she emerged with a memoir. Her
essays have appeared in The Philadelphia Inquirer, Cactus Heart, and Cure
Magazine. Cheryl has M.S. degrees in both Psychological Services and
Organization Development and lives with her family outside of Philadelphia.
Find Cheryl Rice online at http://www.YourVoiceYourVision.com.
So, consider whether or not you would tell all in your own memoir! Would you be willing to lift the veil on your innermost thoughts and actions? Would you expose yourself to potential self-righteous judgment by others? Hmmm...something to contemplate.
I will be returning soon with more information on writing, books and authors.
God bless,
Mary Anne Benedetto
Author of Eyelash, 7 Easy Steps to Memoir
Writing: Build a Priceless Legacy One Story at a Time!, Never Say
Perfect, From Italy with Love & Limoncello and Write Your
Pet's Life Story in 7 Easy Steps!
